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Сообщение sansarag » Вт, 26 апр, 2022 1:05

This year, I was going to jump off a small stool onto the stage and move into a classic Michael Jackson step.I’d made a mix tape that blended three songs into each other with crucial moves at each point.My pants had glitter on them that year.Confident and pumped, I jumped onto the stage, and didn’t make the top three again.I was told I had stood fourth, but in hindsight, every kid’s parents must have told them that.I felt like a failure.I never competed in breakdancing again.As I went deeper into the learnings I gleaned from my failures, this story came back to me, and I soon realized why.But before I get into it, here’s the customary clichéd quote on failure.‘If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.’Here’s another.‘Try, try, never say die.’How many times have you had clichéd lines like these thrown at you when you face a roadblock or any form of failure?The very concept of a failure helping someone progress rather than stalling the pursuit of their life goals is part of every entrepreneur hack guide or hustle porn manual.It’s not that I don’t agree with this perspective.But my innate issue with the way failure is glorified is that most of these glorifications don’t capture a particular nuance that you need to add to the essence of ‘failure as a tool’.It has taught me a lot in my life, and I know I’ve failed more than I’ve succeeded at most things I thought I’d be good at.Case in point being the breakdancing contest, as well as most aspects of school and college, broken relationships, my many attempts at being an actor or director or even a writer, and finally the innumerable failures during my journey as an entrepreneur.When I look back at all these failures, I realize that the things I eventually found success at had the additional nuance to them.The nuance is what I like to call ‘iterative improvement’.The point of failure isn’t to try the same thing all over again.It’s to learn from it and do a tiny bit better in the weaker areas, change direction slightly or go about it with a completely fresh outlook when and if you try again.The point of being iterative is to understand what was fundamentally wrong with what you did in the previous iteration and correct the core issue the next time around rather than succumb to superficial changes.It’s like spraining your ankle in a race and deciding to change your shoes rather than question your technique and training.It’s easy to make such superficial changes and try again.What’s tougher is going to the heart of the problem and being honest with yourself about why you failed, what you really need to change and whether it’s even worth trying again.Let’s go back to the breakdancing story.But what I didn’t change or work on was that my moonwalking sucked and so did my ‘hands on glass’ move.That’s why no matter how hard I tried to cover up the fact that my ability to do ‘the fundamental steps’ of breakdancing was weak, it was there for everyone to see.So, at the end of the day I’d always lose.

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